In two weeks I will hit 45. I look in the mirror and I see an older woman looking back at me. For years I have struggled with my self image. I still do today. I was always the chunky girl in school. How many times did I hear “Carolyn you have such a pretty face, if you just lose some weight you would be such a beauty.” These words didn’t come from strangers, I could of handled that. These words came from my family. The people that I wanted to love me more than anyone in my life. Those words have stuck with me my entire life. They made me feel that I could never measure up. It affected my social life, it affected my marriage and it affected the way I feel about myself.
How can we not, as women, think that what people see on the outside is what is important. The media exploits women in saying you have to be a certain body size or look to be considered beautiful. Woman of God, remember where you come from. We are daughters of the King. Children of the most high. If the saying is beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Let’s take look at our what Father God considers beautiful.
1 Peter 3:3-4 “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes, rather it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.”
Is this saying that we shouldn’t fix our hair or wear makeup or jewelry. I personally don’t think so. What I think this verse is saying is that we need to focus on what we look like through our inner self. Are we beautiful on the inside? Are we kind to others? Are we compassionate? Are we women that follow after Jesus own heart? I know you are thinking but Carolyn, how can I do that when I feel so bad about myself? I know it is hard. It is a constant struggle I deal with everyday myself. I love The Messages version of Ezekiel 16:8-14 it says:
“‘I came by again and saw you, saw that you were ready for love and a lover. I took care of you, dressed you and protected you. I promised you my love and entered the covenant of marriage with you. I, God, the Master, gave my word. You became mine. I gave you a good bath, washing off all that old blood, and anointed you with aromatic oils. I dressed you in a colorful gown and put leather sandals on your feet. I gave you linen blouses and a fashionable wardrobe of expensive clothing. I adorned you with jewelry: I placed bracelets on your wrists, fitted you out with a necklace, emerald rings, sapphire earrings, and a diamond tiara. You were provided with everything precious and beautiful: with exquisite clothes and elegant food, garnished with honey and oil. You were absolutely stunning. You were a queen! You became world-famous, a legendary beauty brought to perfection by my adornments. Decree of God, the Master.
I LOVE THIS!!! Don’t you get it. In the world we may not be perfect but through Jesus and His love, we became Queens, we became perfect… We are stunning!!! Why because Our Lord and Savior is perfect and He created us in His Image!!! Praise God!!!!! Hold on to this.. take this into your heart… Let us all quit trying to please the world’s idea of beauty and focus on the One that made us perfect. It is then that you will shine. After all isn’t He the one we need to please most?