All You Need is Love

Love%201%20Corinthians%2013%2013Yesterday I went to the funeral of my friend’s 19 year old brother. He was a god Godly man, he was doing the right things in his life and for no apparent reason he was gunned down and killed. As I sat there listening to the eulogy, and all the nice things everyone said about him, I can’t help think, what is this world coming too. There is so much hate.

1 Corinthians 13:1-3 gives us all an example of what God expects of us. Especially of Christians  “If I speak in tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love I am only a resounding gong or a clanging symbol. If I have gift or prophecy and can fathom all mysteries, and all knowledge, and I have faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I can boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.”

Wow, God tells us that we can be the best that we can be, we can help the poor, sing the most beautiful song, work in the church fervently in every ministry(I know you servants are out there cause I am one), and it all be for nothing if deep down you don’t have love in your heart.

So reading these words I ponder these thoughts:

Did the person who shot this young man, or the person who shot those kids in CT. ever see love in his life? The person at work that you can’t stand to be around, that has caused you so much strife, do you love them? Do you show them kindness and pray for them? That ex husband/wife that just won’t let it go, that causes you heartache all over again. Do you pray for them? I know these things seem impossible. You can easily love someone that you don’t know or someone that hasn’t affected your life. I understand how hard it is. It took me eight years to stop hating my ex husband. I now love him but love him in a Godly way. I pray for him and want God to bless him.

It wasn’t easy for me. It is hard to get to the point where we can love our enemies. Remember though, we can’t do it. We can only let God change us enough and allow Him to do it for us. So, the first step we can take to change the world is ours.

I challenge you to go up to someone that you don’t like and say to them ” I know we have had issues but I want you to know God loves you and so do I and I will be praying for you. See how they react, see how their face changes. Notice the difference it will make. Let your life be a proof for His love.


Made Perfect for Him


In two weeks I will hit 45. I look in the mirror and I see an older woman looking back at me. For years I have struggled with my self image. I still do today. I was always the chunky girl in school. How many times did I hear “Carolyn you have such a pretty face, if you just lose some weight you would be such a beauty.”  These words didn’t come from strangers, I could of handled that. These words came from my family. The people that I wanted to love me more than anyone in my life. Those words have stuck with me my entire life. They made me feel that I could never measure up. It affected my social life, it affected my marriage and it affected the way I feel about myself.

How can we not, as women, think that what people see on the outside is what is important. The media exploits women in saying you have to be a certain body size or look to be considered beautiful. Woman of God, remember where you come from. We are daughters of the King. Children of the most high. If the saying is beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Let’s take  look at our what Father God considers beautiful.

1 Peter 3:3-4 “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes, rather it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of  gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.”

Is this saying that we shouldn’t fix our hair or wear makeup or jewelry. I personally don’t think so. What I think this verse is saying is that we need to focus on what we look like through our inner self. Are we beautiful on the inside? Are we kind to others? Are we compassionate? Are we women that follow after Jesus own heart?  I know you are thinking but Carolyn, how can I do that when I feel so bad about myself?  I know it is hard. It is a constant struggle I deal with everyday myself.  I love The Messages version of Ezekiel 16:8-14 it says:

“‘I came by again and saw you, saw that you were ready for love and a lover. I took care of you, dressed you and protected you. I promised you my love and entered the covenant of marriage with you. I, God, the Master, gave my word. You became mine. I gave you a good bath, washing off all that old blood, and anointed you with aromatic oils. I dressed you in a colorful gown and put leather sandals on your feet. I gave you linen blouses and a fashionable wardrobe of expensive clothing. I adorned you with jewelry: I placed bracelets on your wrists, fitted you out with a necklace, emerald rings, sapphire earrings, and a diamond tiara. You were provided with everything precious and beautiful: with exquisite clothes and elegant food, garnished with honey and oil. You were absolutely stunning. You were a queen! You became world-famous, a legendary beauty brought to perfection by my adornments. Decree of God, the Master.

I LOVE THIS!!! Don’t you get it. In the world we may not be perfect but through Jesus and His love, we became Queens, we became perfect… We are stunning!!! Why because Our Lord and Savior is perfect and He created us in His Image!!!  Praise God!!!!! Hold on to this.. take this into your heart… Let us all quit trying to please the world’s idea of beauty and focus on the One that made us perfect. It is then that you will shine. After all isn’t He the one we need to please most?

I hate waiting!!!


31 But those who wait on the Lord
Shall renew their strength;
They shall mount up with wings like eagles,
They shall run and not be weary,
They shall walk and not faint.

It is really hard for me to wait. I am not a patient person at all. When I was out looking for a job and got rejection after rejection, I cried out to God why? Here I was homeless, no money for gas, no money for food and God knew I needed a job but I was getting one. I have to admit. There were times I got angry at God. I shouted out at Him maybe even cussed at Him. I was desperate.

But Isaiah 40:31 doesn’t just tell us to wait, It gives us a promise from God that our strength will be renewed. We will not be weary or faint just by letting God do it in his time. That is hard to do when you feel desperate.

I waited and waited. All the time praying God you know my needs, I am trusting in your promise. A year later almost to the day I lost my job God gave me the perfect job. I love my job and I know that it is a job that is according to God’s perfect will.

I don’t know what each of you are going through. I do know that this world is a mess right now and unemployment is high. Maybe you are waiting on your marriage to heal or a sick loved one to get better. Don’t give up. God knows what he is doing in this situation. He has a plan. And while you are waiting, remember the strength will be provided by Him.

He was thirsty, and so was I….

I have really been taking some time off and deciding where I wanted to lead this blog. I have really been praying about it and God has told me to take it in a new direction.

In the book of John chapter 4 it tells a story about a Samaritan women who was gathering water at the well. She chose to gather at the hottest time of the day, that way she would not encounter any other people. See, this woman had so many things going against her. She was an outcast to her people, the talk of the town. She had no respect from others or for herself. She had been with many men in her life and was not married to the one she was presently with. One day this man came up to her. She was surprised by this because after all she was no good anymore. He asked a simple question from her… Can I have a drink? What she didn’t know as she gave this man a drink, was that this man was Jesus of Nazarene. The Savior to all mankind. Where she thought she was giving him a simple drink, suddenly became him filling her up with an everlasting supply of the living water. This woman went home a new creature. She suddenly found joy and peace surpassing anyone’s understanding.

I know this woman personally. This woman is me. This woman is you. Male or female it doesn’t matter. When we get in with the Holy of Holies. When we discover the grace that is ours to take, when we realize that whatever was in our past is cleaned away but just merely asking Jesus into our heart and giving up all those past mistakes, when we finally understand how God’s love will surround us and engulf us, then like this Samaritan woman we can have joy and peace.

In this blog I will post bits and pieces of my own story along with what God is directing me to say. My goal here is to uplift him and be in obedience to Him. But maybe, with God’s guidance, I can help someone that is broken, that might want to just give it up, to find their way again.